Advice on dating a separated married man
It is a process that requires time, self-awareness and hard work.And there’s a strong chance your separated man has a long way to go. I wouldn't immediately discount someone who was separated, but I'd definitely ask questions and see where they were.
In fact, I pity any man who dated me when I was separated; I was messed up, and didn’t even know it!Now he can finally say "Divorced" with clear conscience and he's been on a few dates since then.I don't think it's a coincidence that he didn't have any luck til that changed. My marriage was over for two years before the paperwork was finally completed (the courts were SLOW after the mandatory one year separation period), and I had a few stinging rejections because people assumed I was still invested in my marriage on some level. But, when I called it quits, with my ex-wives, and filed for divorce, it's because it was FN over! So, when I am pushed to the point of no return, there is NO return! I think focusing on the legal status of someone's divorce distracts away from the real issue at hand: are they emotionally and physically ready for the type of relationship they (and you) are pursuing? There's also lots of people who have never been legally married but may have had other kinds of long-term relationships that they are still carrying baggage from.I definitely think people going through divorce, just like with ending any long-term relationship, need to take a good bit of time to heal, emotionally process the breakup, and both emotionally and physically separate themselves from their former partner.However, I think it's only natural to eventually want to pursue romantic connection with other people again, and often the timing of feeling emotionally ready for that does not coincide with the timing of the legal divorce process.