Dating after two divorces
"Diplomacy and negotiating skills are key." Being civil with your ex may encourage more flexibility in terms of custody, and potentially more time with your kids.
"If divorced spouses have a working relationship, they can agree to informally bypass some stipulations," Finley says.
It keeps you active, stimulates your mind, potentially advances your career, and gets you out of the house. Finley, Ph D, a psychologist who specializes in issues facing divorced men and an emeritus professor of psychology at Florida International University in Miami. Date when you feel ready, but leave the kids out of it." Buser agrees.
"Focus on the other adult when starting a relationship," he says.
Too many men seek out a new relationship before the dust has settled on their divorce, says psychologist Sam J.
Your child still needs you as a father, not as a visitor.“It helped, because I got to see what 'normal' looked like,” Roché says.“I also saw that my ex wasn't the only guy who would want to be with me."That should be the most important thing from the man's point of view: His child wants him and his child needs him," Finley says."Maintaining the relationship is important for your child's developmental outcome: social, emotional, and educational." Finley warns against becoming what he calls a "Disneyland dad," who acts as if his role is to show up on weekends and show the kids a good time.