Dating as a single mom
Sometimes I feel pangs of jealousy when I see conventional families with a mother and a father. I want to be with someone who makes me feel alive and makes my time worthwhile. It means that we have to make our time together a priority. I do not have the luxury of dropping what I’m doing and heading out.
For single moms who are juggling dating with a job and kids, free time is precious, and while she will want to spend many of her nights off with you, she’ll likely want some ‘me time’ too. You’ll soon learn the importance of flexibility – and the difficulty of spontaneity.She might have a friendly co-parenting deal, she might want her ex to step up more; either way, you’ll be expected to appreciate the presence her ex has in her life. Follow her lead when it comes to you and her kids One of the most important rules of dating single mom is to let her set the pace when it comes to her kids.Don’t try to outdo them or replace them and, most of all, try not to feel jealous if she spends time with them. When it's early days, it’s vital that you be her partner first and a potential parent to her kids a very distant second.While our coupled friends are planning to run a marathon together, I’m still trying to find a babysitter for our date next week. But I have a guard up to protect not one, but two people.We don’t even have the freedom to make love, cuddle, and sleep next to each other whenever we so desire. If I get hurt, I don’t function well, and that affects my parenting, which in turn affects my child, and all I want to do is protect my child. I’ve acquired a lot of strength and resilience in life, but it doesn’t mean that my vulnerability to love has waned.