“From my personal experience, people who are better looking are less likely to pursue advanced degrees, or play an instrument or learn other languages,” says Benedict Beckeld, a 37-year-old Brooklyn writer with a doctorate in philosophy and the body of an Adonis.
But he’s quick to note that he’s not just a great set of abs — he also plays the violin and speaks seven languages.
“I met some nice people, but realistically I went for the hottest girl you could find.” He spent the better part of his 30s going on up to three dates a week, courting 20-something blond models, but eventually realized that dating the prettiest young things had its drawbacks — he found them flighty, selfish and vapid.
“Beautiful women who get a fair amount of attention get full of themselves,” he says.
“There’s something to be said about sowing your wild oats and getting them out of your system,” says Rochkind, who will marry Carly in June at a “Tuscan-romantic” ceremony at the Wölffer Estate Vineyard in the Hamptons. “You don’t want to be the first to leave the party, but you don’t want to leave the party too late either,” he says.
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Unlike the square-jawed bachelors who disrespected her, Argese is more boy-next-door in the looks department. “He’s not a model, but he’s so much more attractive in who he is as a person,” Young says.
And best of all, she says, Argese doesn’t just see her as a status symbol.
Looking to avoid such a fate, Rochkind started dating a woman who isn’t a bikini model, Carly Spindel, in January 2015. The two met after Spindel’s mother, matchmaker Janis Spindel, scouted Rochkind at a gym.
“I gave him my card and said I have the perfect girl for him,” recalls Janis, founder of Serious Matchmaking, based in Midtown.
“Successful men who are in shape have the pickings when it comes to dating, [but] eventually they want a woman of substance.” Rochkind found that in Carly, 30, a lovely brunette who’s the vice president of her mother’s matchmaking company and a Syracuse University graduate. He loves that Carly isn’t like the swimsuit models he used to go for.
“When men get to a certain age, they realize that it’s important to meet a life partner that they connect with,” she says.
“Looks fade.” Some great-looking people say they’re given a bad rap unfairly.