Dating while married separated

This will put your boyfriend smack-dab in the middle of your divorce, which is a quick way to put a damper on your new relationship.

You need to be especially careful if you have children from your marriage.

By Tracy Achen If you are thinking about dating during divorce ... You may think that you are free to start a new relationship once the decision is made to separate or divorce.

But it is wise to hold off on the dating scene until after your divorce is finalized for a number of strategic, legal, and emotional reasons.

You will most likely have ongoing contact with your husband after the divorce because of the children.

Dating during divorce can poison the spirit of cooperation and affect your life for a long time after the divorce is final (and possibly after your boyfriend is history).

Not only will both you and your husband's conduct be scrutinized during a custody case, but also so will be the conduct of your boyfriend.

If he has a shady background, it will be used against you.

He may seek revenge to compensate for the anger, hurt, and embarrassment that he feels you have caused him.

Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon-to-be ex, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation.

The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.

It can also have a big impact on whether or not you will receive alimony and how much you receive.

This can even apply to temporary support order, because once again, you are sharing the expenses with someone else.

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